Family Plan
The agreements, contacts and boundaries you'd want a calm version of yourself to have written down.
Theo Okonkwo
Son · In early recovery, week 5
Dana Reyes
Sister · Can take over on hard nights
Grace Okonkwo
Daughter (17) · Wants honest but limited detail
Dr. Amara Leigh
Family GP · Knows the full history
Nomi Adeyemi
Al-Anon sponsor · Tuesday calls, 7pm
- No alcohol kept in the house.
- Grace is never asked to cover for anyone.
- Anything about money goes through Sarah, in daylight hours.
- Doors locked by 11pm; nobody waits up.
- Hard conversations happen in daylight, never after 10pm.
- One person speaks at a time. Anyone can call a pause without explaining.
- No discussing Theo's situation with extended family without asking him first.
- Grace gets honest answers, but never adult decisions to make.
No money for cash requests · Active · Direct
Will: Offer to buy groceries or pay a bill directly · Won't: Hand over cash, or transfer money after 9pm
Home stays calm · Active · Firm
Will: Make sure he's safe, then step back and go to my room · Won't: Argue, search his things, or discuss anything serious that night
Sunday lunch is protected · Paused · Soft
Will: Keep lunch about ordinary life — food, football, the garden · Won't: Use lunch to raise treatment or money
Al-Anon Tuesday group, 7pm — Nomi Adeyemi (sponsor)
Dana Reyes — first call on hard nights
Northside Family Support — 8-week caregiver course, starts October
Two neighbours who know enough to help without questions
Priya Raman, LCSW
Family systems, substance use · In person + online · waitlist: None
Riverside Clinic
Outpatient programme, group therapy · In person · waitlist: 3–4 weeks
Dr. Amara Leigh
Family GP, medication review · In person · waitlist: 1 week
Northside Family Support
Caregiver groups, 8-week course · Online · waitlist: Rolling intake
Dana Reyes
First call at night
Dr. Amara Leigh
Family GP
Riverside Crisis Team
24/7 mental health line
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